If I Could Save Time in a Bottle

“Time is the coin of your life. It is the only coin you have, and only you can determine how it will be spent.” ― Carl Sandburg Today is a special day.  The light of my life celebrates her nineteenth birthday. It is such a cliche to ask where the time has gone.  Last week,…

Clarity

“Fish,” he said, “I love you and respect you very much. But I will kill you dead before this day ends.” ― Ernest Hemingway, The Old Man and the Sea I fractured my ankle in October.  I had an unrelated surgery in May.  I did not ride. I did not run. I did not exercise at all…

Moving in the Season of Gratitude

Moving. Everybody hates moving, right? It is the menstruation of life events, not catastrophic like major illness or death in the family, but never good. No one likes moving. My doctor tells me that death, divorce and moving are the three most stressful life events for people. Well, I got divorced in September and moved…

US Senate Approves Gay Rights Bill

Originally posted on Thinking Makes it So:
This afternoon, the United States Senate passed historic gay rights legislation in its approval of the Employment Non-Discrimination Act, which would provide protections in the workplace to workers and job applicants who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender. Any private employer with more than 15 employees would be…

I’ll Bet You Think This Blog is About You

“I’ll bet you think this blog is about you, don’t you?  Don’t you?”  ~  Carly Simon (well, almost) I’ve often said that blogging is an extremely self-indulgent pastime, and I will stick with that remark.  When I started blogging, I did not realize that apparently, reading blogs is an extremely self indulgent pastime as well because…

Zuzu’s Petals

“Action expresses priorities.”  ~ Mahatma Gandhi. I write a lot about priorities.  I think a lot about priorities.  People talk a lot about their priorities.   The problem is that what people express as their priorities seldom match their demonstrated priorities. I’ve sat in depositions listening to successful executives describe their children as their top priorities…

Fools Believe and Liars Lie

in·fi·del·i·ty [in-fi-del-i-tee] noun, plural in·fi·del·i·ties. 1. marital disloyalty; adultery; 2. unfaithfulness; disloyalty; 3. lack of religious faith; 4. a breach of trust or a disloyal act; transgression. I started this blog by looking at the statistics. Somewhere between 18% and 60% of married Americans will have an extramarital affair during their marriage. Men cheat more…

Fairy Tales, Frogs, Corn Flakes and Horseradish

“In fairy tales, the princesses kiss the frogs, and the frogs become princes. In real life,the princesses kiss princes, and the princes turn into frogs.” ~ Paul Coehlo, By the River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept We are not princesses.  They are not princes.  Therein lies the rub. By princesses, I don’t mean the lily…

Tea, Earl Grey, Hot

“Words are easy, like the wind; Faithful friends are hard to find.” ― William Shakespeare Today over lunch, I have been eating a very clean, organic detox salad, nursing a migraine that has been courting me since Saturday, and lamenting the horror of Mondays, which were undoubtedly invented by someone with a dominant and defective…

More Free Advice

A little over a year ago, I published “Free Advice: You Get What You Pay For” on this blog.  It’s a nifty list of answers to questions I often receive in my practice as a family law attorney.  As luck would have it, the past year has brought me yet more revelations and I would…

Reveries of 2012

“Time was passing like a hand waving from a train I wanted to be on. I hope you never have to think about anything as much as I think about you.”   ― Jonathan Safran Foer So here we are on New Year’s Eve, that most nostalgic and most promising day of every year when we look at…

Sandy Hook, Gun Control and Devolution

“The search for a scapegoat is the easiest of all hunting expeditions.”  ― Dwight D. Eisenhower On December 14, 2012 at approximately 9:35 a.m., 20 year old Adam Peter Lanza, wearing black fatigues and carrying a semi-automatic AR-15 assault rifle made by Bushmaster, pistols made by Glock and Sig Sauer, and hundreds of rounds of ammunition, shot…