Clarity

“Fish,” he said, “I love you and respect you very much. But I will kill you dead before this day ends.” ― Ernest Hemingway, The Old Man and the Sea I fractured my ankle in October.  I had an unrelated surgery in May.  I did not ride. I did not run. I did not exercise at all…

Zuzu’s Petals

“Action expresses priorities.”  ~ Mahatma Gandhi. I write a lot about priorities.  I think a lot about priorities.  People talk a lot about their priorities.   The problem is that what people express as their priorities seldom match their demonstrated priorities. I’ve sat in depositions listening to successful executives describe their children as their top priorities…

Fools Believe and Liars Lie

in·fi·del·i·ty [in-fi-del-i-tee] noun, plural in·fi·del·i·ties. 1. marital disloyalty; adultery; 2. unfaithfulness; disloyalty; 3. lack of religious faith; 4. a breach of trust or a disloyal act; transgression. I started this blog by looking at the statistics. Somewhere between 18% and 60% of married Americans will have an extramarital affair during their marriage. Men cheat more…

Fairy Tales, Frogs, Corn Flakes and Horseradish

“In fairy tales, the princesses kiss the frogs, and the frogs become princes. In real life,the princesses kiss princes, and the princes turn into frogs.” ~ Paul Coehlo, By the River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept We are not princesses.  They are not princes.  Therein lies the rub. By princesses, I don’t mean the lily…

Tea, Earl Grey, Hot

“Words are easy, like the wind; Faithful friends are hard to find.” ― William Shakespeare Today over lunch, I have been eating a very clean, organic detox salad, nursing a migraine that has been courting me since Saturday, and lamenting the horror of Mondays, which were undoubtedly invented by someone with a dominant and defective…

More Free Advice

A little over a year ago, I published “Free Advice: You Get What You Pay For” on this blog.  It’s a nifty list of answers to questions I often receive in my practice as a family law attorney.  As luck would have it, the past year has brought me yet more revelations and I would…

Reveries of 2012

“Time was passing like a hand waving from a train I wanted to be on. I hope you never have to think about anything as much as I think about you.”   ― Jonathan Safran Foer So here we are on New Year’s Eve, that most nostalgic and most promising day of every year when we look at…

Remembering Daddy

I don’t know where to begin our story.  It’s hard to tell, full of private details that I would prefer to keep to myself.  But I cannot talk about this without being honest and keeping you secret is so much work. You died on October 2, 2012.  It was  a Tuesday. Three weeks before, I…

Connections

” But if you tame me, then we shall need each other. To me, you will be unique in all the world. To you, I shall be unique in all the world . . .”    ~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Le Petit Prince. I have been fussing with this blog for several months now.  It has…

Some Days Are Diamonds . . . Some Days Are Stones

I hit a milestone birthday on July 1st. For the last three days I have been working on a different blog post, and at this time, I have two complete sentences written of that one. Writer’s block.   So, I thought if I switched instead to writing about my Milestone, it might get me over…

Free Advice (You Get What You Pay For)

Many times, professionalism precludes me from honestly answering some of the questions that are asked of me in my line of work.  However, behind the safety of my laptop, I am emboldened.  Plus, I feel it is a public service to attorneys and clients alike 😉 So, we’ll do this as a list. There is…

A Thousand Tiny Reasons

As an attorney who practices family law, people frequently ask me if I can predict which relationships will succeed and which will fail.  The answer, of course, is no.  Relationships fail when one party reaches the limit to what he or she can personally tolerate.  Once the balance tips in the direction of failure, only…