If I Could Save Time in a Bottle

“Time is the coin of your life. It is the only coin you have, and only you can determine how it will be spent.” ― Carl Sandburg Today is a special day.  The light of my life celebrates her nineteenth birthday. It is such a cliche to ask where the time has gone.  Last week,…

Moving in the Season of Gratitude

Moving. Everybody hates moving, right? It is the menstruation of life events, not catastrophic like major illness or death in the family, but never good. No one likes moving. My doctor tells me that death, divorce and moving are the three most stressful life events for people. Well, I got divorced in September and moved…

Fools Believe and Liars Lie

in·fi·del·i·ty [in-fi-del-i-tee] noun, plural in·fi·del·i·ties. 1. marital disloyalty; adultery; 2. unfaithfulness; disloyalty; 3. lack of religious faith; 4. a breach of trust or a disloyal act; transgression. I started this blog by looking at the statistics. Somewhere between 18% and 60% of married Americans will have an extramarital affair during their marriage. Men cheat more…

Fairy Tales, Frogs, Corn Flakes and Horseradish

“In fairy tales, the princesses kiss the frogs, and the frogs become princes. In real life,the princesses kiss princes, and the princes turn into frogs.” ~ Paul Coehlo, By the River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept We are not princesses.  They are not princes.  Therein lies the rub. By princesses, I don’t mean the lily…

Remembering Daddy

I don’t know where to begin our story.  It’s hard to tell, full of private details that I would prefer to keep to myself.  But I cannot talk about this without being honest and keeping you secret is so much work. You died on October 2, 2012.  It was  a Tuesday. Three weeks before, I…

Connections

” But if you tame me, then we shall need each other. To me, you will be unique in all the world. To you, I shall be unique in all the world . . .”    ~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Le Petit Prince. I have been fussing with this blog for several months now.  It has…

He’s Back

“Sometimes things become possible if we want them bad enough.”   ~ T. S. Eliot He’s back.  The entire month of July was spent in Addison’s purgatory with Djingo.  I was sure he would die this time.  On Wednesday he seemed to turn a corner and began to eat some cooked barley and chicken.  I was…

My Letter to Djingo . . .

“And I believe that angels breathe; And that love will live on and never leave.”  ~ Josh Groban Thursday.  Right now, you are sleeping at the foot of my bed, so weak tonight that I had to carry you up the stairs.  So weak that you could not take your tablets and I had to dribble…

Free Advice (You Get What You Pay For)

Many times, professionalism precludes me from honestly answering some of the questions that are asked of me in my line of work.  However, behind the safety of my laptop, I am emboldened.  Plus, I feel it is a public service to attorneys and clients alike 😉 So, we’ll do this as a list. There is…

A Thousand Tiny Reasons

As an attorney who practices family law, people frequently ask me if I can predict which relationships will succeed and which will fail.  The answer, of course, is no.  Relationships fail when one party reaches the limit to what he or she can personally tolerate.  Once the balance tips in the direction of failure, only…

You Vote With Your Feet

pri·or·i·ty A priority is something that is given special attention.  It can also be defined as the right to precede others in order, rank, privilege, etc., something that takes precedence. We are defined by the choices we make.  Our priorities determine the quality of our personal relationships, our professional integrity, our character itself.  At journey’s end, it is all that we are. This holds…

Memories from the Griddle

Domestic violence.  Infidelity.  Sexually transmitted diseases. Transexual hookers.  Substance abuse. Every other weekend. Exploitation.  Financial ruin. Betrayal, betrayal, betrayal.  Broken trust.  Broken homes.  Broken dreams.  These are the ingredients of my Monday through Friday and they often spill into Saturday and Sunday. On Saturday I got up early and made buttermilk pancakes and organic bacon…